A couple of weeks ago I was standing in the fairway of the 16th hole at Horse Creek Golf Course. I was playing a match for the club championship and was losing by a hole with three left to play. While there's no major prize money or glory that comes with winning the tournament, it was something that mattered to me. The pride of knowing I had beaten some of the best golfers in this area is something to be proud of.
I had hit a rather poor shot into the green that came up short. While I was standing there I had a chance to reflect on some of the things my Dad and other mentors of the game had taught me. "The game of golf owes you nothing and it sure won't give you anything." That statement rang loud and true in that particular moment. I had heard the week leading up to the match that I could "stroll into the semis" or "It won't be easy, but you should be able to handle it." Outside influences led me to believe it would be a cake walk, therefore I got it in my head that the match was already won.
One hole later, I'm standing on the green, staring at a pond in defeat. Everything I heard wasn't true, except for the fact golf owes you nothing. It's just like life owes you nothing. You have to work and put a true sense of effort into everything you do. Despite golf being something I've worked at, I let my ego get ahead of me and was humbled. People have things handed to them all of their life, but there comes a time where you will be humbled.
Although that match had humbled me, it was two weeks later that I really had to step back and check myself. When my brother and me play golf together, we have the intentions on beating the other in dominating fashion. It's always been that way, the usual sibling rivalry. I had given up a 6 or 7 shot lead to him on the back nine. I was steaming mad. But, remembered the game owes me nothing. Allow me to quote a passage from one of my favorite books and movie, "Seven Days In Utopia". "How can a game have such an effect on a man's soul? The way I see it is 'How can it not?' You don't choose the game, it chooses you. And, when it does, life and golf are forever connected." Golf has taught me many lessons in life through out the past fifteen years. But, the one that just now has started clicking is how to be humble. I don't expect this to he the last lesson either.
Friday, August 30, 2013
Monday, May 13, 2013
Life...Can Anyone Truly Figure It Out?
The past couple of years have had me really questioning life. Everything I've ever known has been questioned over this time period. People have been taken out of my life, I've lost passion for the things I grew to love, and now I find myself asking the question, "What was all of it for?" Is there a purpose for heartbreak, let downs, or unanswered questions that have presented themselves?
People say our life is already mapped out for us by the time we're born. I must slightly disagree with that statement. I believe we're given many routes to take in life, however, they all end up at the same finishing point. I do believe in destiny, but there's more than one way to reach that destiny. As for myself, I think I've taken every possible route and find myself at a crossroads trying to figure out where to go now.
In September I lost my grandmother. That was by far the hardest time of my life. All of the rejections, letdowns, and negative experiences couldn't sum up to the pain I felt the day she passed. Little did I know that period of time would begin a metamorphosis in my life. Everything started changing. Why? I guess it was just a matter of me developing a different perspective on life. Little did I know, it would begin to effect the people around me. That change of perspective could be a huge contributor to me being at the crossroads.
While going with the flow with this newly developed outlook on life, I was still trying to maintain an old perspective just to keep a friendship. Eventually I would lose it. Maintaining two different philosophies on life is impossible. It showed and cost me one of the better friendships I had ever had. Thankfully, I had my core group of friends to rely on during this time. True friends are had to come by, therefore I cherish the ones I have now.
By this point you probably want to know what this new outlook on life is. It's simple...I question everything. Relationships, religion, trust in people, and life itself. We get so narrow minded and complacent with our thinking that when things change, we get hurt. Constantly questioning things has helped me develop a sense of awareness to everything. Will I still experience grief over a lost loved one or the every day emotions? Yes, it's part of our genetic makeup. But, constantly questioning things has strengthened my mind and especially my heart.
I've met some people over the past several months that have helped me go about this life philosophy the right way. One of the most important things they've taught me is that life can never truly be figured out. That's why we should have an inquisitive approach to everything, but remain true to our values. Life throws curveballs and fastballs that hit us right in the face.(Philosophical baseball pun) We just have to continue on and accept it. Don't try to figure life out, just live it with an outlook of a three year old. Let everything be new to you, question it, and don't get complacent.
People say our life is already mapped out for us by the time we're born. I must slightly disagree with that statement. I believe we're given many routes to take in life, however, they all end up at the same finishing point. I do believe in destiny, but there's more than one way to reach that destiny. As for myself, I think I've taken every possible route and find myself at a crossroads trying to figure out where to go now.
In September I lost my grandmother. That was by far the hardest time of my life. All of the rejections, letdowns, and negative experiences couldn't sum up to the pain I felt the day she passed. Little did I know that period of time would begin a metamorphosis in my life. Everything started changing. Why? I guess it was just a matter of me developing a different perspective on life. Little did I know, it would begin to effect the people around me. That change of perspective could be a huge contributor to me being at the crossroads.
While going with the flow with this newly developed outlook on life, I was still trying to maintain an old perspective just to keep a friendship. Eventually I would lose it. Maintaining two different philosophies on life is impossible. It showed and cost me one of the better friendships I had ever had. Thankfully, I had my core group of friends to rely on during this time. True friends are had to come by, therefore I cherish the ones I have now.
By this point you probably want to know what this new outlook on life is. It's simple...I question everything. Relationships, religion, trust in people, and life itself. We get so narrow minded and complacent with our thinking that when things change, we get hurt. Constantly questioning things has helped me develop a sense of awareness to everything. Will I still experience grief over a lost loved one or the every day emotions? Yes, it's part of our genetic makeup. But, constantly questioning things has strengthened my mind and especially my heart.
I've met some people over the past several months that have helped me go about this life philosophy the right way. One of the most important things they've taught me is that life can never truly be figured out. That's why we should have an inquisitive approach to everything, but remain true to our values. Life throws curveballs and fastballs that hit us right in the face.(Philosophical baseball pun) We just have to continue on and accept it. Don't try to figure life out, just live it with an outlook of a three year old. Let everything be new to you, question it, and don't get complacent.
Wednesday, May 9, 2012
My View On Gay Marriage
Before I begin, let me ask that you respect my views just as I respect yours. No "bashing" needed. I do NOT support gay marriage. Why? First off, yes it is a sin. Homosexuality is a sin in general. As is lying, murder, immorality, etc. But, as a Christian and based on my beliefs I don't agree with it. It's not the homosexuality or the marriage issue that really bothers me though. It's the majority of people's lack of theological knowledge who are just spouting off uneducated posts about sinning.
To get in depth about things, some theological things should be pointed out to people who have pointlessly rambled about sinning. Romans 3:23 says, "For everyone has sinned; we all fall short of God's glorious standard." So, anyone who knows the Bible will admit that they are far from perfect. We know we're all sinners, but a true Christian doesn't deliberately sin. IF you believe in the Bible, then you try to live to it's standard to the best of your ability.
Now allow me to clear up the "sin" issue. I've seen people posting things such as tattoos, shaving, eating non-kosher meats, etc. Yes, those are listed as laws...Levitical and Old Testament laws. In those days those things were considered a sin. However, if you know the Bible then you know that in Matthew 5:17 Jesus says, "Don't misunderstand why I have come. I did not come to abolish the law of Moses or writings of the prophets. No, I came to accomplish their purpose." In other words, Jesus fulfilled those laws by living the perfect life.
They were fulfilled because he knew there would come a day that people wouldn't be able to live up to those standards. That is why salvation now goes through him. Not a priest or prophet. But, He still laid the foundation for the life that we should live. We have free will to believe what we want to. Some believe in the Bible and that Jesus is the only way to salvation. Some believe differently. It's free will and a choice we are given. The only reason I disagree with homosexuality is because sexual immorality and homosexuality is because they're listed in the New Testament laws set by Jesus and his apostles, disciples, and followers. (Ref: 1st Corinthians 6:9)
With all of that being said, despite not supporting the issue and actions and as a minister, I'm obligated to discourage those things and teach my beliefs. However, I will NOT judge a person for their beliefs or actions. I've done numerous things wrong in my life and am in no place to judge anyone. Allow me to remind you that Jesus ate with sinners and was crucified by the "religious" people. So, if you're going to state your opinion. Please do so without attempting to make points that you have no clue about. It gives non-judgemental, loving Christians a bad image.
In closing, I will not judge you for the lifestyle you live or support. My beliefs tell me to love people for who they are and not the things they do. Just because I disagree with the things, doesn't mean I'm going to judge you for doing them. I respect your views and ask that you respect mine as well. Please, please, please, just know the facts and details of the Bible before statements are made that are totally off.
Love is my religion, Christ is my King.
To get in depth about things, some theological things should be pointed out to people who have pointlessly rambled about sinning. Romans 3:23 says, "For everyone has sinned; we all fall short of God's glorious standard." So, anyone who knows the Bible will admit that they are far from perfect. We know we're all sinners, but a true Christian doesn't deliberately sin. IF you believe in the Bible, then you try to live to it's standard to the best of your ability.
Now allow me to clear up the "sin" issue. I've seen people posting things such as tattoos, shaving, eating non-kosher meats, etc. Yes, those are listed as laws...Levitical and Old Testament laws. In those days those things were considered a sin. However, if you know the Bible then you know that in Matthew 5:17 Jesus says, "Don't misunderstand why I have come. I did not come to abolish the law of Moses or writings of the prophets. No, I came to accomplish their purpose." In other words, Jesus fulfilled those laws by living the perfect life.
They were fulfilled because he knew there would come a day that people wouldn't be able to live up to those standards. That is why salvation now goes through him. Not a priest or prophet. But, He still laid the foundation for the life that we should live. We have free will to believe what we want to. Some believe in the Bible and that Jesus is the only way to salvation. Some believe differently. It's free will and a choice we are given. The only reason I disagree with homosexuality is because sexual immorality and homosexuality is because they're listed in the New Testament laws set by Jesus and his apostles, disciples, and followers. (Ref: 1st Corinthians 6:9)
With all of that being said, despite not supporting the issue and actions and as a minister, I'm obligated to discourage those things and teach my beliefs. However, I will NOT judge a person for their beliefs or actions. I've done numerous things wrong in my life and am in no place to judge anyone. Allow me to remind you that Jesus ate with sinners and was crucified by the "religious" people. So, if you're going to state your opinion. Please do so without attempting to make points that you have no clue about. It gives non-judgemental, loving Christians a bad image.
In closing, I will not judge you for the lifestyle you live or support. My beliefs tell me to love people for who they are and not the things they do. Just because I disagree with the things, doesn't mean I'm going to judge you for doing them. I respect your views and ask that you respect mine as well. Please, please, please, just know the facts and details of the Bible before statements are made that are totally off.
Love is my religion, Christ is my King.
Tuesday, February 7, 2012
What Have We Done?
Last night I posted a status about being disgusted with the image and impression women have on men because of their actions. I'm going to get a little more into detail on my thoughts. However, this time I am going to be explaining things from both perspectives. I may say some things that come across as offensive to people, but that is not my intentions and I apologize in advance.
So, let's dive right on into this. One thing I've learned in life is that a woman's heart is the most fragile thing placed in a man's hand. The problem is her heart can also be the thing the man is least careful with. I have been guilty of this in my past, but the lesson has been learned. A woman's heart should be treated with care. Her mind should be treated with care. HER BODY SHOULD BE TREATED WITH CARE! Social media, our society, and our culture has instilled a total disregard for those things in us. That leaves me no choice but to ask, what have we done to women? The answer is simple.
Guys have basically shown that they want nothing to do with them if women don't open their legs or get sexual in any way. Or, they constantly badger them until the girl labels them a creeper, etc. Guys it's simple, if she doesn't reply then she's apparently not interested. What we tend to forget is usually a girl has already had a run in with a jerk that treated her that way and has been hurt. Like I said, there hearts aren't something to just play with.
In my opinion, it's time men grow a set and be men. Don't be a little boy trying to play house or get in her pants because society tells you that you're a nobody if you're not sexually active. Treat her like she should be treated...WITH RESPECT! Take her on dates, do special things for her without expecting any reciprocation in physical form. Make her feel important and not like a piece of meat or someone you can just talk down to. Don't take what you have for granted. From personal experience, I can tell you taking something for granted can possibly cost you the best girl that has ever walked into your life. That is all, guys. Maybe we can all pick up on this and change the way that women see men.
Now to the women. First off, I apologize for every man that has ever hurt you, constantly bothered you, or made you feel degraded in any way. Secondly, I understand men have done some damage, but let's face it....nobody's perfect. You become just as guilty as the men wanting nothing but your body by posting pictures that show tons of skin on social media sites, dressing inappropriately in public, or acting in any way to give yourself that image. If you want a man that treats you with respect, start by respecting yourself. The way you carry yourself speaks volumes. But, that goes with saying that some guys don't care whether you're the most innocent person or the most promiscuous...just avoid those jerks.
Listen ladies, you're all beautiful in your own special way. I believe in guarding your heart to the fullest. But, building a wall that's so high nobody can get in is not the right way to approach it. Build that wall so that only someone special and worth the time can come in. If you strictly date guys based on their looks or possessions without thoroughly examining his heart, mind, and even spirituality, then chances are you're making a mistake. You want a guy to treat your heart with care? Find one that you will treat his heart with care. Guys may mistreat women more often, but women are just as guilty at times.
Before I'm done, some things need to be summed up. Guys, quit hiding behind computers or cell trying to just hook up with girls. They're worth way more than that. Be a man, take her out on a date, or just kick it with her. Oh yeah, don't expect her to open her legs just because she agreed to hang out with you! Make her feel beautiful and respected for who she is. Not what's in her pants.
And, my final word to the ladies. You want a respectful, decent, honest guy? They're not too hard to find. These social media sites pretty much show you what kind of people you're talking to or whatever. If you notice he's a creeper...stay away. If you notice he's a good dude that has shown interest, maybe you should give a chance. Don't set impossible standards based on materialistic things or build your walls so high that nobody will ever get to them. Just know, there's probably just as many guys that have been hurt just like you have.
So, to answer the question "What have we done?" We have hurt each other so much that we have become too careless or too careful about our feelings as well as other's. Life's meant to be lived to the fullest and shared with the most special people. Those people are out there. Do the right things and they will come to you or you will find them. :)
So, let's dive right on into this. One thing I've learned in life is that a woman's heart is the most fragile thing placed in a man's hand. The problem is her heart can also be the thing the man is least careful with. I have been guilty of this in my past, but the lesson has been learned. A woman's heart should be treated with care. Her mind should be treated with care. HER BODY SHOULD BE TREATED WITH CARE! Social media, our society, and our culture has instilled a total disregard for those things in us. That leaves me no choice but to ask, what have we done to women? The answer is simple.
Guys have basically shown that they want nothing to do with them if women don't open their legs or get sexual in any way. Or, they constantly badger them until the girl labels them a creeper, etc. Guys it's simple, if she doesn't reply then she's apparently not interested. What we tend to forget is usually a girl has already had a run in with a jerk that treated her that way and has been hurt. Like I said, there hearts aren't something to just play with.
In my opinion, it's time men grow a set and be men. Don't be a little boy trying to play house or get in her pants because society tells you that you're a nobody if you're not sexually active. Treat her like she should be treated...WITH RESPECT! Take her on dates, do special things for her without expecting any reciprocation in physical form. Make her feel important and not like a piece of meat or someone you can just talk down to. Don't take what you have for granted. From personal experience, I can tell you taking something for granted can possibly cost you the best girl that has ever walked into your life. That is all, guys. Maybe we can all pick up on this and change the way that women see men.
Now to the women. First off, I apologize for every man that has ever hurt you, constantly bothered you, or made you feel degraded in any way. Secondly, I understand men have done some damage, but let's face it....nobody's perfect. You become just as guilty as the men wanting nothing but your body by posting pictures that show tons of skin on social media sites, dressing inappropriately in public, or acting in any way to give yourself that image. If you want a man that treats you with respect, start by respecting yourself. The way you carry yourself speaks volumes. But, that goes with saying that some guys don't care whether you're the most innocent person or the most promiscuous...just avoid those jerks.
Listen ladies, you're all beautiful in your own special way. I believe in guarding your heart to the fullest. But, building a wall that's so high nobody can get in is not the right way to approach it. Build that wall so that only someone special and worth the time can come in. If you strictly date guys based on their looks or possessions without thoroughly examining his heart, mind, and even spirituality, then chances are you're making a mistake. You want a guy to treat your heart with care? Find one that you will treat his heart with care. Guys may mistreat women more often, but women are just as guilty at times.
Before I'm done, some things need to be summed up. Guys, quit hiding behind computers or cell trying to just hook up with girls. They're worth way more than that. Be a man, take her out on a date, or just kick it with her. Oh yeah, don't expect her to open her legs just because she agreed to hang out with you! Make her feel beautiful and respected for who she is. Not what's in her pants.
And, my final word to the ladies. You want a respectful, decent, honest guy? They're not too hard to find. These social media sites pretty much show you what kind of people you're talking to or whatever. If you notice he's a creeper...stay away. If you notice he's a good dude that has shown interest, maybe you should give a chance. Don't set impossible standards based on materialistic things or build your walls so high that nobody will ever get to them. Just know, there's probably just as many guys that have been hurt just like you have.
So, to answer the question "What have we done?" We have hurt each other so much that we have become too careless or too careful about our feelings as well as other's. Life's meant to be lived to the fullest and shared with the most special people. Those people are out there. Do the right things and they will come to you or you will find them. :)
Thursday, February 2, 2012
Just getting some things off of my chest.
Before I even get into this blog/note, I will let whoever reads this know that I am strictly speaking my mind and not attacking any particular group of people. However, if you feel the need to delete me, etc. go ahead. No hard feelings.
As some of you know, I have made some radical adjustments to my life in the past three months. Before midway of April of last year I was heavily involved in ministry, as well as in school for it. One event took place and I got mad at God. I left the church and cut ties with almost everyone in it. I was given a great opportunity to be an intern with a record company. Not too long after taking it I found myself doing the things that had gotten me into trouble in the past. But, I had a divine encounter with God and realized that I should have never left what I was doing in ministry. I also realized that I couldn't blame an incident in which my heart was broken on God.
Now, I find myself with a newfound love for Jesus that has me burning for Him more than ever. I see myself truly changed, and now I realize the depth and legitimacy of the calling He has placed on my life. With the greatness of that feeling and how well things have improved, the devil is coming at me harder than ever. I have been verbally abused through Facebook and Twitter for the things I say regarding Christianity and how much I support ministries/ministers such as The Ramp, Damon Thompson, and Mattie Montgomery. All of those people have had a huge influence on my walk with Jesus. They speak the truth that isn't watered down like we see in most "large" ministries these days.
To my point. The people that have used their words in attempt to hurt me or change my thinking really have no clue about my past or what I believe. Those things may shock them if they would take the time to ask, instead of assuming and jumping to conclusions about me. Allow me to fill all of you in. Before giving my life to Jesus, I struggled with numerous things and was head to Hell in a handbasket. I had an addiction to pills, I was basically an alcoholic, I struggled with lust and pornography, I had no heart, and was so arrogant that I didn't care about anyone but myself.
Yes, I have been set free from those things and preach heavily against them.Yes, I support a minister who has been very vocal about his disagreement with homosexuality. But, by no means do I judge anyone by what they do or what they believe. I love each and every one of you regardless. I am not one of those people to shove my thoughts down your throat. The love of Jesus is all I want to portray. But, I am called to speak and teach you how to get it and live like it.
The things I post on Facebook and Twitter are the things I believe, think, and pray for. It's your choice whether you accept Him or not. He loves you, I love you. I don't judge you, but in the end He will. That's all I can say. I just hope those who think I'm some awful Christian will realize that I'm human, imperfect, and struggle with things just as everyone else. I have just found a love that surpasses every possible feeling we can imagine. I know as a Christian that I will be persecuted, and I'll live with it. I hope those of you who read this understand that I'm no different, no better, and not anymore worthy of His love.
Drake
As some of you know, I have made some radical adjustments to my life in the past three months. Before midway of April of last year I was heavily involved in ministry, as well as in school for it. One event took place and I got mad at God. I left the church and cut ties with almost everyone in it. I was given a great opportunity to be an intern with a record company. Not too long after taking it I found myself doing the things that had gotten me into trouble in the past. But, I had a divine encounter with God and realized that I should have never left what I was doing in ministry. I also realized that I couldn't blame an incident in which my heart was broken on God.
Now, I find myself with a newfound love for Jesus that has me burning for Him more than ever. I see myself truly changed, and now I realize the depth and legitimacy of the calling He has placed on my life. With the greatness of that feeling and how well things have improved, the devil is coming at me harder than ever. I have been verbally abused through Facebook and Twitter for the things I say regarding Christianity and how much I support ministries/ministers such as The Ramp, Damon Thompson, and Mattie Montgomery. All of those people have had a huge influence on my walk with Jesus. They speak the truth that isn't watered down like we see in most "large" ministries these days.
To my point. The people that have used their words in attempt to hurt me or change my thinking really have no clue about my past or what I believe. Those things may shock them if they would take the time to ask, instead of assuming and jumping to conclusions about me. Allow me to fill all of you in. Before giving my life to Jesus, I struggled with numerous things and was head to Hell in a handbasket. I had an addiction to pills, I was basically an alcoholic, I struggled with lust and pornography, I had no heart, and was so arrogant that I didn't care about anyone but myself.
Yes, I have been set free from those things and preach heavily against them.Yes, I support a minister who has been very vocal about his disagreement with homosexuality. But, by no means do I judge anyone by what they do or what they believe. I love each and every one of you regardless. I am not one of those people to shove my thoughts down your throat. The love of Jesus is all I want to portray. But, I am called to speak and teach you how to get it and live like it.
The things I post on Facebook and Twitter are the things I believe, think, and pray for. It's your choice whether you accept Him or not. He loves you, I love you. I don't judge you, but in the end He will. That's all I can say. I just hope those who think I'm some awful Christian will realize that I'm human, imperfect, and struggle with things just as everyone else. I have just found a love that surpasses every possible feeling we can imagine. I know as a Christian that I will be persecuted, and I'll live with it. I hope those of you who read this understand that I'm no different, no better, and not anymore worthy of His love.
Drake
Wednesday, October 12, 2011
The Voices.
Something has really been hitting my heart over the past few weeks, and it's time I speak my mind. A few years ago when I was heavily involved in church, I wrote a human video to a song called "Hero" by Superchick. The song talks about harrassing people and being negative examples for those who look up to us. Bullying and harrassment have become major issues in our society. I've recently seen these acts first hand. It's a heartbreaking thing to see.
People never take the other person's feelings into consideration when they constantly bash them. Even if it's for a good laugh, it's still detrimental to a person's emotions. We all have a voice. But, how we choose to use it is what matters. In the song, it talks about a boy who is being mistreated, a girl who's mistreated because she doesn't fit in, and a young boy who sees his brother doing the wrong things. The heartbreaker and violent truth is not every situation comes out all pretty and happy. Kids are taking their own lives over pointless, childish actions of their peers.
We should all be that voice that sticks up for those in need. There's a little bit of decency in all of us to step in and help handle a situation. Some of us show it more often, while others show an extreme lack of it. The point is, there are people out there hurting because of someone's childish actions. These people tend to be self righteous beyond belief, and think they can just run over and degrade anyone they please. The anti-bullying campaign is huge these days. Regardless of what someone is being bullied over, step in and be a voice for them. Everyone has a heart and feelings. I encourage you all to think about every word you say to someone. It could cost them their life. Please watch this video and I hope it shows you that your negative words towards someone could cost them their lives.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sU0BjfPc6o0
People never take the other person's feelings into consideration when they constantly bash them. Even if it's for a good laugh, it's still detrimental to a person's emotions. We all have a voice. But, how we choose to use it is what matters. In the song, it talks about a boy who is being mistreated, a girl who's mistreated because she doesn't fit in, and a young boy who sees his brother doing the wrong things. The heartbreaker and violent truth is not every situation comes out all pretty and happy. Kids are taking their own lives over pointless, childish actions of their peers.
We should all be that voice that sticks up for those in need. There's a little bit of decency in all of us to step in and help handle a situation. Some of us show it more often, while others show an extreme lack of it. The point is, there are people out there hurting because of someone's childish actions. These people tend to be self righteous beyond belief, and think they can just run over and degrade anyone they please. The anti-bullying campaign is huge these days. Regardless of what someone is being bullied over, step in and be a voice for them. Everyone has a heart and feelings. I encourage you all to think about every word you say to someone. It could cost them their life. Please watch this video and I hope it shows you that your negative words towards someone could cost them their lives.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sU0BjfPc6o0
Wednesday, September 28, 2011
Human Nature or Choice?
A few weeks ago a friend and I had lunch. We discussed what exactly we use to react to situations. Is it human nature and natural instinct. Or, is it by our own choices? There are many attributes that we have that come by human nature. There are attributes we have because we made the choice to have them. In life we have decisions that need to be made. Often decisions have to me made concerning business, school, family, friends, relationships, etc. But, what exactly do we use to make those decisions? Do we make them based on our instincts and human nature or by choice?
When it comes to vital things like family, business, or school, we use pure human nature and instinct to act on things. Usually we make the right decisions because of the importance of those people or things. However, when it comes to friends and relationships. I believe we make choices based on what we want or what we think we need. Sometimes we make wrong choices and sometimes we make choices that benefit us in those situations.
A current situation I've been brought into has me convinced that this theory we came up with is totally correct. In the situation, I had rebuilt a relationship with someone whom I love and cherish with every ounce of my being. However, it wasn't necessarily in the manner I had hoped for it to be. Maybe because of past mistakes and negativity in the relationship? More than likely, that's the reason why. But, knowing things could possibly be improved is what gave me hope...only to be let down.
This is when the theory was brought up. Was it the other person's human nature to back out because the fear of being hurt or take on the task of everything again? Doubt it. I believe it's by choice. Strictly because of the things that come in a serious relationship and just not wanting to give things another shot. It may be the right thing for it not to happen right now. However, If this is an issue where human nature is concerned, then when the time is right...the other person will find their way back. It was a choice to turn from it right now. All I can hope is that human nature will kick in, they'll realize what may be better for them, and hopefully come back.
When it comes to vital things like family, business, or school, we use pure human nature and instinct to act on things. Usually we make the right decisions because of the importance of those people or things. However, when it comes to friends and relationships. I believe we make choices based on what we want or what we think we need. Sometimes we make wrong choices and sometimes we make choices that benefit us in those situations.
A current situation I've been brought into has me convinced that this theory we came up with is totally correct. In the situation, I had rebuilt a relationship with someone whom I love and cherish with every ounce of my being. However, it wasn't necessarily in the manner I had hoped for it to be. Maybe because of past mistakes and negativity in the relationship? More than likely, that's the reason why. But, knowing things could possibly be improved is what gave me hope...only to be let down.
This is when the theory was brought up. Was it the other person's human nature to back out because the fear of being hurt or take on the task of everything again? Doubt it. I believe it's by choice. Strictly because of the things that come in a serious relationship and just not wanting to give things another shot. It may be the right thing for it not to happen right now. However, If this is an issue where human nature is concerned, then when the time is right...the other person will find their way back. It was a choice to turn from it right now. All I can hope is that human nature will kick in, they'll realize what may be better for them, and hopefully come back.
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